Therapy Services at Morgan Hill

I find it useful to draw on different therapy models and teachings to best tailor my work with you to fit your needs. In the near future I plan to offer equine facilitated psychotherapy to clients who benefit from this type of intervention.

When working with two or more people, my approach as a therapist and facilitator is that there is no right person and no wrong person in either conflicts of need or conflicts of value. When we slow things down and use listening skills to track, validate and express empathy for the other, a shift of understanding occurs, which can trigger growth and healing.

In our work I will help you build a conscious, mindful relationship. I am on the path towards Certification as an Imago Therapist and meet regularly with Dr. Bruce Crapuchettes and Dr. Francine Beauvoir of the Pasadena Institute for Relationships who instructed me and critique my work.

MY PURPOSE: to provide you with a safe space to work on your goals, in a manner that serves your best interests as you define them. I work to facilitate you to find your way; I will never offer advice or tell you what I think is best for you, but rather will support and encourage you to find what is alive in you. I will help you find your voice. Regardless of your situation and problem, I believe there is always a way to make positive change.

MY METHOD: I provide 60 and 90 minute sessions to individuals, and a minimum of 90 minute sessions to couples. I work on a sliding scale, and will discuss fees with you prior to our first session. (Please see my fees page). As an elder with a background rich in experience, I work well with people of diverse ages, backgrounds and cultures. I offer afternoon and evening appointments. I believe in a family systems approach and draw on Cognitive Behavioral interventions as well as Narrative theory and interventions.

For individuals, I provide help, encouragement and support with many issues, including but not limited to:

  • Trauma and abuse issues, PTSD
  • Depression, Anxiety and Low Self-Esteem
  • Making goals and striving to achieve them
  • Communication Skills to Improve Your Relationships
  • Grief

For those whose relationships trouble them (couples, families, parents/children, and individuals), I provide interventions that help facilitate positive change in dealing with

  • Relationship issues between spouses/partners, conflict between parents and children.
  • Parenting issues.
  • Dysfunctional family dynamics
  • Challenging Life Transitions including Career Changes, Trauma

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Controlling your Anger and Temper: Morgan Hill QA

Do you struggle with anger and temper issues in Morgan Hill?

Anger is a Powerful Emotion.

  • Anger ranges from being frustrated to severe fury. It can last from a few seconds to a lifetime.
  • One is never “wrong” to feel anger. What we do in our anger determines whether or not we are wrong.
  • Anger is best understood as a state of readiness. It is a natural response to a real or perceived injustice inspiring a powerful alertness that allows us to defend ourselves or others.

Anger Always Finds an Expression

Repression—to deny anger’s presence. This is unhealthy because even though it may not be observable, it is still present—turned inward.

Suppression—with suppression, one redirects anger-driven energy into healthy or unhealthy behavior.

Expression—healthy expression involves gentle assertiveness; unhealthy expression involves aggressiveness that hurts others.

Action Steps and Tips to Overcoming Anger

1. See It

  • List known triggers and sources of anger
  • Until you can control the anger, avoid triggers as much as possible
  • Identify angry feelings while they are still minor.
  • Be aware of physical changes—these are warning signs (e.g., Rising heart rate, tensed muscles, dilated pupils, clenched fists, flared nostrils, bulged veins)

2. Delay It

  • Take a “time out” from the situation (20 minute minimum)
  • Perform light exercise until the intensity of anger is manageable.
  • “Write, don’t fight;” This exercise is personal and writings should be kept private, not sent.
  • Talk with a trusted friend who is unrelated to the anger-provoking situation: Don’t just vent—ask for constructive advice.

3. Control It

  • Respond, don’t react.
  • Confront to restore, not to destroy.
  • Empathize (yelling is a failure to empathize).
  • Learn how to self-calm. Calming will help you let some of your angry feelings subside before expressing anger in a healthy way.
  • Talk to a counseling professional, find an accountability partner, or join an anger management group

Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way—that is not easy.

Looking For Morgan Hill Anger Counseling? Let’s talk today.

Call us at (408) 469-4995. We are available to talk with you today. If you call and reach our voice message system, don’t be discouraged! We still want to talk with you, we are just seeing clients. Leave your name and phone number and we will call you back that day.

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